I was not informed of any of this until much later. After I was released from the hospital the second week of July, my sister was desperate for me to visit her as soon as possible because, as she put it, I almost died and she just really wanted to see me. I suggested she come to Florida but she interpreted it as I didn't have the money. I just did not want to travel so soon after almost dying but, she didn't get it. Also, my 6 year-old granddaughter lived with me. My sister said she would pay for 2 tickets for us to go to NY when I was well enough to travel. She never paid for the tickets, my mother did. My sister makes tons of promises but never follows through.
So yeah, she couldn't care less that I almost died, she did not want to see me, she just needed me as someone to be in her home for one day so she had someone to blame. After she divorced her husband, he let me know everything in detail what she did. It took me 9 years to even talk to her again. She apologized but she has no care in the world about the damage that she did.
I let her know I have absolutely no idea what happened to it and I was offended that she was implying that I may have stolen it. About 2 months later, she had the nerve to ask me to apply for a credit card to the jewelry company she worked for because she would get a kickback. I did not want a stupid credit card for her jewelry company but I thought, okay, I'll do it for her. Well, I was denied credit through this company and the reason being is because my sister not only filed a false homeowner's insurance claim for her missing necklace, she mentioned that it was me, her one day house guest, that took it.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
(Apologies ahead of time for the lengthy answer)
I live in Florida. In 2012, I experienced a horrific assault and my gallbladder ruptured. I endured 16 days of (progressively) excruciating pain until I was finally admitted into the hospital and had my decomposing gallbladder removed. The nurse told me I had one day left to live if I did not get the surgery (the only surgeon that would do it was on holiday so I had to wait for 5 days on a constant drip of heavy painkillers). The surgeon said it was the worst gallbladder he has ever seen and my body was in sepsis, I needed a blood transfusion, and I had a stroke in my eye due to blood loss. I have a 14 inch scar across my abdomen.
Now, I need to go back to the month of June. It's a long story but I will try to make it as short as possible. My sister had called me from a campground that she was staying at to say she had lost a $3,600 necklace she was commissioned to design for the jewelry company she worked for. One of the stipulations was she was not allowed to take the materials or the finished product out of the store but she was so proud of her creation, she brought it on her camping trip and lost it. She asked me to pray to help her find it. Now we're back to August when I was in New York. My granddaughter and I left September 1st and I received a phone call from my sister asking me if I or my granddaughter saw the necklace in her house. I said, “you mean the necklace you lost at the campground?” And she said “oh no no no, I had it here the whole time and it just went missing when you were here”. For that one day. Do you see where I'm going with this?
Why doesn't California have the tools, people, means to put out these fires even though they know there will be fires every year?
While I was in the hospital (and sedated), my husband used my cell phone to let my family know what was going on. When he called my parents in New York, my sister answered the phone. My husband asked to speak to my parents and my sister replied, “I don't want to talk to you! I want to talk to my f@$king sister!!” and she hung up on him. He then called my daughter to ask her to let my parents know what was going on and they were mad at my husband for not calling him. Talk about a no-win situation.
My granddaughter and I traveled to NY the end of August with plans of staying with my sister a few days and then my parents. It was boiling hot where she lived and she had no air conditioning and I was not allowed to get my surgical scar in pool water so I sat there sweating and uncomfortable for a day and my sister let me know she was scheduled to work all week. I asked her why she insisted on me staying with her when she knew my situation AND she wasn't even going to be around?? The next day, on her way to work, she dropped my granddaughter and me off at my parents house and we stayed there for the rest of our vacation.
